How to Save Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with ups and downs, moments of joy, and times of challenge. When a marriage faces difficulties, it can feel overwhelming and disheartening. However, with commitment, communication, and practical strategies, it is possible to turn things around and rekindle the connection that brought you together in the first place.

For more than a decade working with couples, I have to admit that the most common problem in broken marriages is the lack of communication. People give different meanings to the same things, and this gap in values creates a gap in relationships. For example, one of my female clients is a great cook. For her, feeding the family is very important, and she has a habit of entering her kids’ rooms and her husband’s office without knocking because she wants everyone to enjoy dinner while it is hot. However, her family members perceive this as disrespectful. To her, entering the room without knocking means providing care for the people she loves.

Another way couples miss out on communication is by feeling offended or being scared to share their true feelings with their partner, fearing their emotions might not be appreciated or taken the right way. As a result, individuals start to live in their own world of thoughts and illusions.

Where does this lead us? Open and honest communication, with high listening skills and a deep understanding of each other, is the key to a strong relationship.

Sometimes, routine takes over! It is very important to respect each other’s schedules and be there for each other.

Spend quality time together and share activities if your partner needs a hand. This can help strengthen your bond and create new memories.

Kind words and physical affection are very important. Small gestures like holding hands, hugging, or a gentle touch can go a long way in maintaining intimacy and closeness.

If you can’t overcome the offenses collected over the years but still have a mutual desire to save your marriage, you can always seek professional help.

In my practice working with couples, I concentrate a lot on seeing the good sides of your partner, practicing forgiveness and patience, and rebuilding trust.

Saving a marriage requires effort, dedication, and a willingness to work together. By fostering open communication, rekindling your connection, seeking professional help, addressing underlying issues, practicing forgiveness, rebuilding trust, focusing on the positive, and learning together, you can strengthen your bond and create a fulfilling and resilient partnership. Remember, it’s never too late to start making positive changes and working towards a happier, healthier marriage.