Аbout the difference in the vision of the relationship

A client addressed me with the question why the man she is dating actively behaves in real life, but hardly writes, and rarely calls for a date.

I think many people have been in such situations or are now. Actually, the answer is very simple. A partner who behaves like this is simply in his comfort zone, which means he has no desire to have anything more with you, which means he is satisfied with this dynamic of your relationship. Then you have to ask yourself, does his attitude and communication with you correspond to what you want?

When you are “in search”, you realize what type of relationship you are counting on. If not, then you should figure out what kind of partner you are looking for, with what values, principles and what format of relationship you prefer, how much time you can devote to another person.

Let’s suppose that someone who reads this article has a question, but how to preserve your self-esteem and not push your own boundaries? First, it is worth being sincere and straightforward in expressing your intentions for communication. It’s not about saying from the beginning that you need a relationship and artificially accelerating the dynamic, but discussing the general intentions and values of the person at this time of life and the like. Realize and analyze your own values, to what extent they match or contradict those of your environment or a potential partner. Always remember that the rule “your boundaries end where others begin” applies to everyone. Sometimes, in any relationship, you have to give in, find compromises, or ideally – consensus. But your resourcefulness, sense of happiness and satisfaction with life is very important, you should think seriously if someone or something encroaches on it. Trust your intuition and emotional state, if you feel depressed and exhausted after communication, then most likely this person may not be compatible for you, or even have hidden intentions, manipulation, etc.

Don’t forget about your own interests, almost regardless of the state of the relationship. Take time to develop your hobbies, meet friends, go on trips and do things that bring you joy. Hobby is an important factor that brings people together and expands the range of topics for communication, as well as develops you as a person.

So, it is important to remember that we have the right to a happy and healthy relationship where we are valued and unconditionally accepted. Striving to develop as a person, maintaining one’s self-worth and responsibility for one’s own happiness is a primary task. Free yourself from limitations and be open to new possibilities. Learn to listen to your intuition, stick to your values and don’t be afraid to strive for a happier and more comfortable life. May your path be filled with love, growth and joy!