Personal Boundaries: Yes or No?!

Nowadays, there are a lot of motivational coaching programs offering journeys of transformation. In my opinion, they work best for those who already know themselves at least basic things and chosen life path. People who haven’t yet realized their character, mission, or potential could become lost on the way to self-realization and may take social media trends personally. In following this endless educational process of self-improvement, we often fail to realize that society is attempting to change us, crossing the boundaries of our natural personality, and we not only agree but also willingly pay for it.

The same phenomena occur with trends: in the Renaissance era, women were expected to have some meat on their bones, whereas in the 20th century, a number of models died from anorexia. It’s somehow about influence and crossing boundaries in an indirect way, a form of massive manipulation.

You might ask, “So, should I not strive to become a better version of myself?”

Yes, you should strive to become a better version of yourself, but not somebody else. Be YOU!

And what about setting boundaries with close people in personal life? Do people need to establish personal boundaries? Yes and no.

Personal boundaries encompass emotional, physical, and psychological limits that define how individuals interact with others and the world around them.

While personal boundaries can vary from person to person, they generally involve setting limits on what behavior is acceptable or unacceptable, respecting one’s own needs and values, and communicating these boundaries to others to ensure mutual respect and understanding.

They play a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships and safeguarding one’s well-being, as they delineate a line that nobody can cross.

For example, don’t call me after 7pm I spend time with my husband and kids, don’t use master bedroom shower being a guest or don’t enter the room without knocking the door. Establishing personal boundaries helps to establish mutual respect, maintain individuality, and create a healthy dynamic.

However, having too many boundaries can prevent you from being natural and relaxed. Boundaries were rarely discussed in childhood; you did something wrong, you were punished. Nowadays, kids can sue their parents. Phrases like discrimination or emotional abuse are commonplace. By avoiding conflict or natural communication and instead relying solely on the art of creating personal boundaries, you may fail to explore many facets of yourself.

As Socrates said: “No one is your friend or enemy; everyone is your teacher.” If you seek to hide from your own nature, you are welcome to set up as many boundaries as you wish.